Do selfies show that you’re confident … or insecure? What men really think of your self-portraits.
Taking too many photos of yourself for your dude to handle — or not enough? Despite the hot craze blowing up your Instagram and Facebook feeds, researchers in the UK are saying that your selfies could be damaging your friendships, relationships with colleagues and (most importantly), your relationship with your SO.
So, should you quit the selfie system? Here’s what guys had to say about the solo picture trend.
They like to see you looking (and feeling) good:
“When a girl I’m into posts photos of herself, it tells me that she’s confident and proud of the way she looks — and I’m totally into that,” says Marc, 33.
“A girl who’s comfortable enough to take photos of herself and actually post them to her social media accounts (like Facebook and Instagram) is definitely a girl I want to talk to. To me, that’s sexy. It shows she’s confident in her skin,” says Brian, 23.
But for some, the abundance of your selfies is just too much:
“I was into this girl once and then I checked out her Instagram. Every photo was a photo she’d taken of herself with dozens of filters to make her look better. It just looked desperate. I felt like if I dated her I would just have to constantly feed her ego,” says Danny, 29.
“The last thing I want to see is photos she’s taken of herself all over her house. Like ‘Here I am in the bathroom,’ or ‘Look, standing by the fridge.’ Too many selfies are a deal-breaker for me,” says Kyle, 24.
“I cringe every time I see a girl taking a photo of herself. I don’t think I’d be able to date someone who was that into themselves,” Peter, 27, says.
For some guys, it says you’re insecure:
“If a girl posts photos of herself nonstop on her Facebook, I’m going to think she needs the attention. I don’t want to be with someone who has to be told she’s pretty nonstop,” says Rich, 35.
“It’s one thing to take photos of yourself and send them to your guy in a private message. That’s totally fine. But once you make it public — it’s like your asking for people to validate your beauty or your looks. Sorry, but no thanks,” says Tyler, 26.
So, should you stop?
“I think I’d definitely be the most excited person to see the selfie trend make it’s way out. I’m ready for it to retire,” says Rob, 19.
“Who cares? If a girl feels good — and knows she looks good — then who are we to judge? Clog the feed all you want,” says Anthony, 25.
“I’m torn — obviously I like to see girls looking good when I’m scrolling through my Instagram late at night, but at the same time, I wouldn’t ever want a girl that’s out with me to slink off the bathroom and take photos of herself. So I say yes, keep the selfies around, but only if they’re done right,” says Joe, 22.
“Selfies are less about guys and more about girls. It’s like this thing they do to impress and make each other jealous. I don’t think it has anything to do with guys, which makes it a little pathetic. It’s not like they’re looking for our approval — they’re looking for each other,” says Steve, 26.